How Do I Get This Girl?

Afternoon Love guru! I admire and like this girl I met on a three days seminar who lodged with a guy.

I approached her on the first day and she gave me her contact details. While flirting with each other, I got to understand she doesn't like her man. On the third day she checked out quite early and called me but I missed it. In the process of returning her call, she sent a text message that read, "Thank you but I needed to leave. I do not understand you but I am engaged. I don't think I wanna give up just yet in order to hit... "

So please how do you think I can get this girl in a snap of fingers? Thanks.

Chris, 32 years

My Relationship Depresses Me

Dear Kela,

My name is James and I'm 35. I have a girl I dated for 7 years only to discover she was dating another right under my nose. She apologized and agreed to break up with the other guy so I forgave her. We continued dating, however, I haven't given her a dime since the incident took place. Consequently, we aren't in very good terms at the moment.

I do feel bad about not giving her money but I'm scared she might hurt me again. Do I resume responsibility of her needs or do I let her go which would surely be devasting to me?

My Husband Just Called Off Our Marriage

Dear Kela,

I met this guy through a woman in my church. She told me he would be a good match for me and that he was about leaving the country. We met and I liked him as he was very devoted in church and so we got married.

It has been several years and I am now 37 years and still waiting for him. We seldom communicate and he rarely says anything about my coming over as he is not settled yet. He also never sends money. One faithful day he called only to narrate to me, his dream about my infidelity and then added that he was no longer interested.

My life right now is in shambles. I do not know where to begin from, whom to turn to and if any man will find me attractive at this age.

Please Kela what do i do?

Priscilla

Interesting Facts About relationships

1.Couples usually wait until six to eight dates before they are willing to enter into an exclusive relationship.

2.The most common time for breakups is around three to five months.

3.On average, it takes between 12 to 14 dates before couples will trade house keys.

4.Researchers at the University of Chicago found that people were twice as likely to find a date through friends and family than through the bar scene.

5.In the online dating world, women are afraid of meeting a serial killer. Men are afraid of meeting someone “fat.” According to Ann Rule, about 3% of men are psychopaths, of which only a tiny percentage are serial killers.

Interesting Facts About Love

1. It only takes up to 4 minutes to decide whether you like someone or not

If you want to make a good impression on someone, you’ve only got about 4 minutes to do it. It is believed that it has far more to do with your body language, tone and speed of your voice rather than exactly what you say.

2. When Two Lovers Gaze At Each Others’ Eyes, Their Heart Rates Synchronize

 Some extraordinary research has found that couples who are in love and bond in a romantic relationship synchronize their heart rates after gazing into each others’ eyes for three minute

 

My Boyfriend Makes Promises Only During Lovemaking

Dear Love Guru,

I have this problem that I want to share with you. I have a boy friend and we have been dating for just a year now. I love him a lot, he claims to love me too, but his actions proves otherwise. He rarely compliments me, he only remembers how much he loves me and how much he wants me to be his soulmate only when he his on top of me at the throes of passion.

Last week, he went up to the extent of even proposing when we were at it. I was so disappointed that I asked him afterwards and his response was that he was actually giving marriage a thought. Imagine! Giving marriage a thought when he is untop of me. To make it worse it's five months now and he has not said anything about it since then.

At this point I am considering calling it quits with him. Your advice is highly appreciated.

Stella

Help!! Any Man Who Proposes To Me Dies Before Our Wedding

Dear Kela,

I am a beautiful lady in my early thirties. Seyi and I have been dating for the past 2years. He so caring and loving, in fact he is everything a woman will dream of in a man. He did what every woman will be looking forward to in a relationship. He proposed to me and I am so so sad. Since he proposed I have refused to see him because I can’t say NO also because I don’t want to lose him.

Rewind, some years back, on 2 occasions I have had the misfortune of burying and mourning my fiance some weeks to our wedding. Biodun was first; he died 2months to our wedding after suffering fatal injuries after a ghastly car accident. I met Charles 2years later; he died a months after proposing to me under mysterious circumstances. I was devastated. It took friends and family to console me. I was very scared of dating again until my present boyfriend swept me off my feet.

He has proposed, he wants to marry me and am so scared of losing him. I have refused to see him since then because I can’t say no to his proposal. What if I tell him about what happened to my ex? Would he still want me? I want him but I can’t allow him go the same way the others went.

Your advice and counsel is needed urgently before I lose my mind

My Ex Boyfriend Wants Me Back After Dumping Me

Dear LoveGuru,

I dated my ex for 2 years. We were good together until about 7 months, when we started to argue a lot over petty things that would result in full blown shouting matches, which we always resolved amicably though the relationship became a bit strained I'll have to admit. So, it came as a rude shock when he broke up with me, advising me to move on with my life because there is no future in our relationship. I agreed because there was no use forcing someone who doesn't want to stay. I was devastated and heartbroken because I loved him so much.

After a rocky 2 weeks separation, he called to tell me he misses me, that he wants us back. Said he didn't mean what he said, that he is sorry and admitted that he was tired of the arguments, that he couldn't communicate with me anymore. I still love him though and he is still making every effort to get me back, calling me everyday and also wants to take me out. I don't know how to feel, I want to be with him but I still feel betrayed and so confused. I have never broken up with someone and get back together.

Has anyone been in this position before?  Your advice is appreciated.

Nonye