My Boyfriend Makes Promises Only During Lovemaking

Dear Love Guru,

I have this problem that I want to share with you. I have a boy friend and we have been dating for just a year now. I love him a lot, he claims to love me too, but his actions proves otherwise. He rarely compliments me, he only remembers how much he loves me and how much he wants me to be his soulmate only when he his on top of me at the throes of passion.

Last week, he went up to the extent of even proposing when we were at it. I was so disappointed that I asked him afterwards and his response was that he was actually giving marriage a thought. Imagine! Giving marriage a thought when he is untop of me. To make it worse it's five months now and he has not said anything about it since then.

At this point I am considering calling it quits with him. Your advice is highly appreciated.

Stella

Help!! Any Man Who Proposes To Me Dies Before Our Wedding

Dear Kela,

I am a beautiful lady in my early thirties. Seyi and I have been dating for the past 2years. He so caring and loving, in fact he is everything a woman will dream of in a man. He did what every woman will be looking forward to in a relationship. He proposed to me and I am so so sad. Since he proposed I have refused to see him because I can’t say NO also because I don’t want to lose him.

Rewind, some years back, on 2 occasions I have had the misfortune of burying and mourning my fiance some weeks to our wedding. Biodun was first; he died 2months to our wedding after suffering fatal injuries after a ghastly car accident. I met Charles 2years later; he died a months after proposing to me under mysterious circumstances. I was devastated. It took friends and family to console me. I was very scared of dating again until my present boyfriend swept me off my feet.

He has proposed, he wants to marry me and am so scared of losing him. I have refused to see him since then because I can’t say no to his proposal. What if I tell him about what happened to my ex? Would he still want me? I want him but I can’t allow him go the same way the others went.

Your advice and counsel is needed urgently before I lose my mind