Help!! Any Man Who Proposes To Me Dies Before Our Wedding

Dear Kela,

I am a beautiful lady in my early thirties. Seyi and I have been dating for the past 2years. He so caring and loving, in fact he is everything a woman will dream of in a man. He did what every woman will be looking forward to in a relationship. He proposed to me and I am so so sad. Since he proposed I have refused to see him because I can’t say NO also because I don’t want to lose him.

Rewind, some years back, on 2 occasions I have had the misfortune of burying and mourning my fiance some weeks to our wedding. Biodun was first; he died 2months to our wedding after suffering fatal injuries after a ghastly car accident. I met Charles 2years later; he died a months after proposing to me under mysterious circumstances. I was devastated. It took friends and family to console me. I was very scared of dating again until my present boyfriend swept me off my feet.

He has proposed, he wants to marry me and am so scared of losing him. I have refused to see him since then because I can’t say no to his proposal. What if I tell him about what happened to my ex? Would he still want me? I want him but I can’t allow him go the same way the others went.

Your advice and counsel is needed urgently before I lose my mind

He Pays My School Fees But I Can't Marry Him

Dear Kela,

I lost my dad in a car accident when I was 14 years old, from then on life became very hard for us. My mum prior to my dad's death was just a housewife. It was very difficult to feed, talkless of going to school, I had to drop out of school, and as the first child I sold pure water to help my mum. It continued like his until a man who claimed to be a friend of my late dad decided to take responsibility of my family's needs though I noticed that he took special interest in me and made sure he provided for my basic needs.

With his help we were able to move to a better accommodation, I and my siblings were able to go back to school. Presently, I am in my 300 levels in one of the Federal Universities. I have boyfriend in school, but he thinks my dad's friend is my uncle. My dad's friend still visits me in school and takes care of my every need. I understand he did all he did just because he wants to marry me. My mum even told me not to do anything stupid or else my dad's friend will withdraw his support.

He is hell bent on marrying me before my graduation. He has refused to pay my school fees until the traditional wedding is finalized. Am so confused, I wish I could convince him to hold on until am through with my education. I know I can't marry him, am just 24 and he is in his mid-fifties, I don't love him. I am scared because if I refuse to marry him he'll stop sponsoring my education.

What do I do?

Confused Nneka