My Ex Boyfriend Wants Me Back After Dumping Me

Dear LoveGuru,

I dated my ex for 2 years. We were good together until about 7 months, when we started to argue a lot over petty things that would result in full blown shouting matches, which we always resolved amicably though the relationship became a bit strained I'll have to admit. So, it came as a rude shock when he broke up with me, advising me to move on with my life because there is no future in our relationship. I agreed because there was no use forcing someone who doesn't want to stay. I was devastated and heartbroken because I loved him so much.

After a rocky 2 weeks separation, he called to tell me he misses me, that he wants us back. Said he didn't mean what he said, that he is sorry and admitted that he was tired of the arguments, that he couldn't communicate with me anymore. I still love him though and he is still making every effort to get me back, calling me everyday and also wants to take me out. I don't know how to feel, I want to be with him but I still feel betrayed and so confused. I have never broken up with someone and get back together.

Has anyone been in this position before?  Your advice is appreciated.

Nonye

He Pays My School Fees But I Can't Marry Him

Dear Kela,

I lost my dad in a car accident when I was 14 years old, from then on life became very hard for us. My mum prior to my dad's death was just a housewife. It was very difficult to feed, talkless of going to school, I had to drop out of school, and as the first child I sold pure water to help my mum. It continued like his until a man who claimed to be a friend of my late dad decided to take responsibility of my family's needs though I noticed that he took special interest in me and made sure he provided for my basic needs.

With his help we were able to move to a better accommodation, I and my siblings were able to go back to school. Presently, I am in my 300 levels in one of the Federal Universities. I have boyfriend in school, but he thinks my dad's friend is my uncle. My dad's friend still visits me in school and takes care of my every need. I understand he did all he did just because he wants to marry me. My mum even told me not to do anything stupid or else my dad's friend will withdraw his support.

He is hell bent on marrying me before my graduation. He has refused to pay my school fees until the traditional wedding is finalized. Am so confused, I wish I could convince him to hold on until am through with my education. I know I can't marry him, am just 24 and he is in his mid-fifties, I don't love him. I am scared because if I refuse to marry him he'll stop sponsoring my education.

What do I do?

Confused Nneka

Sex: Who Enjoys Sex More?

The issue of sex in a relationship and marriage cannot really be overemphasized. Sex has destroyed many relationships as a result of individual differences and lack of understanding between two partners. Gone are the days when sex was regarded as an act meant for procreation only. It is nowadays regarded as the height of pleasure and something that is used to relieve tension and stress. The issue is so sensitive, yet, many people prefer to clamp up whenever the discussion arises.

Contrary to popular belief that men enjoy sex more than women. Research shows that women enjoys sex as much as men if not more. The female body is built for pleasure: there are thousands of nerve endings in the female sexual organs that allow women to have multiple orgasms in the way men simply cannot. So, as the saying goes, what's not to like? Men are generally wired for sex, that why they crave it..do they enjoy it that much?

Lets have your opinion on this

My Pastor Said We Can't Get Married

Dear Kela,

I am a young lady in my late twenties, I have been in my present relationship for the past 3 years. My boyfriend proposed last year and we intended to walk down the aisle later this year, until my pastor dropped the bombshell last month. He said he saw a vision, that we should not get married because the marriage will not work out, that I’ll be single in no distant time. I have been depressed since then, my fiancée wants us to go ahead, and our families are in full support though we have not told them what my pastor said. Within me I feel so right about my decision to marry him. Am still confused cos I love him so much. On the other hand, how do I disobey the vision the pastor had concerning my future. What if I go ahead with the marriage and things turn out like the Pastor said? But the mere thought of leaving my fiancée is unthinkable.

Please what do I do?

Anita

I found Out My Boyfriend is Gay

Love Guru,

Mine is a very unusual problem. I am not a very good story teller so I'll just make make it brief and straight to the point. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. I found out he is gay, I stumbled on him...I mean them. He and his so called best friend @it. Am so hurt and disappointed. I have heard stories about guys being gay which is so disgusting, but to have something to do with one for 4 years leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I cry when I think about the 4 wasted years. I feel so stupid and foolish not to have suspected their unusual closeness.

Debby

I Had Sex With My Boss To Give My Boyfriend A Job

Dear Love Guru,
I’m in love with an amazing guy and we have been dating for 3 years now. Everything seem to be heading for marriage until he lost his job a year ago. I work as a sales rep in a pharmaceutical company. Despite numerous applications and interviews he is yet to secure another job which makes him depressed cause I have to cater for his needs most times.

So I decided to meet my boss at the office and he decided to help with the connection of his friends. He accepted but requested s*x with me, after giving it much thought I agreed to just a one time stuff. I sacrificed for him. True to my boss's promise my boy friend got a job in one of the multinationals. Though my boss still makes passes at me I have refused to sleep with him since then.

As fate would have it my boyfriend stumbled on the messages on my phone when I asked him to help me get it from a phone repairer since the repairer told me the phone will be flashed. He found out the whole thing. He quit the job instantly. Though he picks my calls he has not said anything to me. I feel so confused, cause I only intended to help.

Please what do I do
Nike