Being A Lover VS Being in A Relationship

Being in love or growing in love is a necessary ingredient in any relationship but being in love doesn't automatically guarantee a relationship status. Here’s the difference between a lover and a relationship. I consider a lover to be somebody with whom you can get together to have fun. You get to share secrets with each other. You get to have a great time in bed. You share a wonderful evening together and experience what it’s like having this temporary relationship.

It’s just a relationship that temporarily satisfies you that night. When you and your lover leave the bed and you both go to work the next day, however, that conversation does not go further. That conversation goes further in a relationship, because that’s what a relationship is all about. When you’re confessing things in bed in a relationship, you almost always the very next day want to send an email or have another conversation.

You want to take the conversation further, recap the prior night’s conversation or take that conversation to the next level. A relationship involves exposing the depth of who you are as a person. You’re exposing that depth, and you’re going deeper and deeper into that relationship. You’re exploring each other more and more. So those confessions in the middle of the night when you’re in bed lead to more stimulating conversations the next day and lead to more personal discovery.

So when you find a lover, go ahead and confess away and talk about whatever you want. If you don’t want your lover to be a relationship, though, then don’t carry those conversations into the next day, because those kind of confessions are only for people with whom you want to have a relationship.

That’s the biggest difference. Trust your lover, and grow with your relationship

Unreturned Love

The worst thing that can crush one's ego is unreturned love. The first thing one must understand is LOVE. There is no force that is more potent than LOVE. When it is expressed to someone and it is not returned, it makes one's life miserable. Love is the most important of success. Unreturned Love demoralizes someone. It only takes the strong hearted people to bear the pain of unreturned love.

When you are in love, be careful so as not to drown in love. U can sink in love. Unreturned love is also reaping what we have sown; in the sense that, everyone in this world has a crush that we so much love, but the person u have a crush on may not  have the smallest unit of a feeling for you not to even talk of returning the Love you are showing. This simply "those who love us, we don't love them and those who we love, don't love us".

Unreturned love can come in diverse ways: It can come before a relationship kicks off or It can also arise during the course of a relationship. It is better to encounter it before the relationship kicks off than it popping up during the relationship. When it pops up during a relationship, try your best to get the Love u worth back in return with all your instinct but don't make a mistake of forcing the relationship to stand because if you do that, it implies that you demean yourself, tolerate insults and abuse on yourself, live with out integrity, personal dignity and honour will be reduced on your part. After you might have tried your best and it didn't work out fine, just let go and start a refreshed life by changing your entire thinking because you cant change your life if you don't change your thinking....

Conclusively, be wise, be attentive and intellectual to tackle unreturned Love whenever you encounter it.

Love VERSUS Lust

1. Love is unselfish, it cares about the interest of others WHILE lust is selfish and restrictive.

2. Romance in Love starts slowly. (It can take up to few months to a year before it starts) WHILE lust starts fast. (Within hours or days).

3. When you are in Love, you are attracted by the person's personality and self suiting qualities WHILE in lust, you are deeply inpressed or interested in other's physical appearance.

4. The effect of Love makes you a better person WHILE the effect of lust is destructive and disorganizing.

5. When you are in Love, you view each other realistically, seeing each other's faults, yet loving each other WHILE lust is unrealistic, the other person seems perfect, you tend to ignore nagging doubts about serious flaws.

6. Love allows disagreements to be talked and settled WHILE lust doesn't permit that, instead, arguments are frequent, nothing really gets settled (if settled, it's with a Kiss).

7. True Love always wants to give and share with the other WHILE lust lays its emphasis on taking, especially in self satisfaction.

8. Genuine Love grows stronger with time and becomes a perfect bond of union WHILE lust reaches a fever pitch in no time and then fades.

Conclusively, romantic bonds are forged with no prospect of marriage in sight... Watch.

-Guru Jennifer

How To Overcome Insecurity In Your Relationship

Insecurity could make or mar your relationship. Its a slowly spreading disease that wreaks havoc on your relationship. If detected early enough, you can save your relationship. In fact, it could be your constant insecurity that is doing all the damage to your relationship, not the actual actions taken by your partner. In order to stamp out insecurity, you need to do a personal evaluation to determine the source of the problem, and then consider ways to combat it.

What You Need to Know
Make the time in your relationship to have an open and honest line of communication with your partner. While the prospect of sitting down to talk can initially be daunting, there's nothing to lose. You have a lifetime of productive conversations to gain and frustrations that can be avoided.

Step 1:
Make a list of reasons that cause your insecurity. Do you have a history of cheating partners? You can't hold your current partner accountable for past partners' mistakes. Are you insecure because of your personal appearance? Your partner loves you for more than just your personal appearance. Have you and your partner cheated on each other before? If you decided to stay together, you have to let go of the pain. You can't dwell on the past and expect your relationship to survive. Make a list of these sources and try to attack one of them at a time.

Step 2:
Work on improving your self-confidence. Oftentimes, relationship insecurities are caused by one partner having issues with self-esteem. If you have gained weight and it's making you feel worse about yourself, join a gym or work out at home. Not only will you improve your health, but you will feel better even before you start seeing results. Don't take everything so seriously. If you applied for a promotion at work and didn't get chosen, don't take it personally. It doesn't make you any less of a person. Set small, achievable goals, and when you tackle each one, it will make a huge impact on your self confidence.

Step 3:
Find something that makes you happy. Explore new hobbies to find something you enjoy doing. Not only will this make you happy, but it will help release your inner habits. Finding something you're good at goes a long way when trying to reduce insecurities. This website will help you find activities that sound interesting to you. Pamper yourself. Go get your nails done or buy a new outfit. When you look your best, you will feel your best.

Step 4:
Communicate with your partner. Insecurities are just another reason why good communication is so vital to the stability of relationships. Are your partner's flirting habits fueling your insecurities? Talk to him about it. He might just be a natural flirt and not realize that his actions are affecting your relationship. Are you worried about your wife's new co-worker because he calls her at home? Speak up and let her know what you are feeling. Even if it's just discussions about work, it will help to get the reassurance from her.

Step 5:
Try to enjoy the relationship without worrying so much about the outcome. It's important to consider the possibility of the relationship ending instead of staking all of your feelings in it. While you shouldn't hold back, you should reassure yourself that you'll be okay if you and your partner end up going your separate ways. Honestly, a partner who wants to cheat will end up cheating. You don't have any control over that. You shouldn't waste your time worrying over something that could happen.

Tips & Warnings
Don't hide your insecurities from your spouse. In many cases, your partner will go the extra mile to help rebuild trust in your relationship.
One of the best ways to gain trust in your partner and relationship is to recapture your initial feelings toward each other. Schedule date nights or spend a lazy Sunday together at the Farmer's Market. Spend time together without focusing on your insecurities and you will gain confidence in your relationship.