Tuesday 10 September 2013

Help! My Girlfriend Accepts Financial Assistance From Other Men



I got this email from one of my ardent readers. 

Dear Love Guru

I recently found out my girlfriend is being financially supported by a man she met some years ago before we started dating. He buys her expensive gifts, gives her lots of money any time she asks, beyond what I am capable of providing. She swears they don't sleep together or have any intimate encounters at all, though they meetup and hang out once in awhile. She insists he is just a friend that she doesn't have anything to do with. I know she met this man before I came into the picture, but now that I am in. Is it possible that she is telling the truth and has had no physical relations with this man?. How could a man give a woman anything she wants, if she’s not reciprocating in kind? If I stay with her is there anyway she'll cut this off to be with me? Please help.


Worried Ken


Is it okay for a lady to accept financial assistance from other men if her man is not financially stable to cater for her needs?


24 comments:

  1. This really doesn't smell good. If a woman's man is providing for her, she shldnt really be seen accepting overtures from other men. It goes †☺ show lack of contentment and since its a give and take world, and d gifts r coming constantly she cnt really say nth is happening

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  2. Is not okay at all. Whatever her man has should be okay for her and they should work together to achieving all they want. Nothing is for free even freedom has a price to pay especially in this part of the world. She should be contempt with whatever her man has.

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  3. Is possoble that she is saying the truth. I hv had such an experience myself. But the truth is that thhe guy will wish to have some kind of extra but he won't push it if the grl says no. But is still adviceable she adjust that friendship alittle for the sake of her current relationship.

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  4. Hmmmm itz almst possible she is saying d truth buh if she is wise she will knw daht d dude will definitely want more so if she cherishes ha current rship she shld 4get bout wot d oda guy cn give ha & focus on ha bf...tinz will still geht berra..

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  5. Lmaoooooooo my cheeks hurt...worried Ken I pity you..... Cos you are on a long tin... Mehn your finished cos she's. Defnatly lying to you about nothing hapening.. #lebron

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  6. @lebron! You can't be certain about that u kn, well like someone stated, its a give and take world, no doubt about that, but sometimes such help is divine. I know most guys render help to girls to be repaid in kind, but the thing is, there are still good guys. Well its not advisable to accept gifts from other guys while in a steady relationship, like uncle okey said, you should be contented with the little your boyfriend gives to you. The truth is, every girl deserves to be cartered for, some guys are so tight-fisted that they find it very difficult to assist their partner, that's so wrong. A real man will take responsibility of his girlfriend. So the bottom line is accepting gifts from other guys belittles him. Give your boyfriend some reverence.

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  7. @jenny.. Well said tho.. Yea the fact is its rare to see guys. Who gives stuffs to.a girl dat has a bf. Is wrong and the give and take clichE is the order of the. Day. So its. Very. Hard to believe the girl is teliing the truth.

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  8. 30percent possible,all I can say,even if she's nt giving him sex she's eida giving attention or keeping the guy company,its a jonsing world lol,pls is dat man Jesus christ?dis is Naija!

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  9. @jenny no guy is ready to render help to a lady continually not once oooo, witout having hopes on sometin about d geh,let's get real joh, giving a geh sometin is just like ur investing ,its eida ur expecting it to grow or ur expecting returns joh!hoooohaaaa!

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  10. @queen, i agree with you dear, but you're seeing things from a fixed viewpoint u know. Let's spread our thought and see this ish from various viewpoints. I kn granting such help without expecting anything in return is somewhat seldom, but its possible. There are still good people!

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  11. @queen, i agree with you dear, but you're seeing things from a fixed viewpoint u know. Let's spread our thought and see this ish from various viewpoints. I kn granting such help without expecting anything in return is somewhat seldom, but its possible. There are still good people!

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  12. If its once or twice I agree but if its continually I rarely bilv so, cos d guy must surely expect returns!

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  13. This is crazy my bro ken, i want to take myself for example, i might help anyone i have known before once ,it's not going to be more than once if we are not having anything down ... Secondly do not trust them brother... coz wetin eye don see,mouth no fit talk m .

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  14. My dear Ken,let's b real here ur gf is doing dat guy if d provision is constant,u r a guy,wld u constantly provide 4 a girl dats not ur sister or gf? 1st tins 1st dat gf of urs doesn't even have an atom of respect 4 u if she can go out nd gt gifts nd allow u knw she's getting it frm anoda guy,is d guy a charity organisation?...she's indirectly calling u a fool. I'm a lady,I knw how dis tins work, we can only collect free stuffs frm men 4 a short period of time not for years my dear, so wake up frm ur slumber

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  15. So in essence, ken shouldn't believe his girlfriend?

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  16. Well, the truth is nothing is free. The girl mite be saying the truth, but she is nt sure of wot the guy has in mind. Is better she stops, cos she is hurting her guy. The guy shld also talk to her abt dix and tell her he is nt comfortable with dat. I guess the will sort it out. If she continues accepting the gift, she will pay one day is certain!

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  17. Omo mehn!!!...dat babe is a runs babe...is she dat dull dat she doesn't know dat dat guy wants something from her?...is she a learner.how can someone just start buying ♈ōϋ tins ♈ōϋ request for...dat babe na runs girl...end of story!!!.

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  18. He will never know if she's telling the truth or not, what matters is the way forward from here. He has to tell her to choose between their relationship n her friendship with the man. Wateva happens afterwards will determine who's lieing n who's not.

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  19. I concur with soph

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  20. She is playing the field bro. She isnt thinking of you unless your doing something for her or giving her gifts. She obviously isnt taking how you feel when she takes the stuff. If she loves you, what you give should be enough. Ask yourself this "Am I doing all I can for the woman?" Cause when a woman feels like shes not getting the attention she needs. She will get from someone else. And the same goes for us guys. But if you honestly do all you can and she still is taking in crap from another guy. Dude get out smartin up, she is doing him or is about to. Thought your in school, is it for " special people " Good luck bro!!!

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