Dear Kela,
I started a new job a couple of months through
the help of the company's female HR manager, after waiting for 8
years without a job. I love my job, my colleagues are wonderful people and the
pay is also very good. I get along with my boss, I have grown
fairly close to her because I work directly under her supervision. Though, I
was aware of the extra attention and chemistry between us, I quietly hoped it
was not what I thought.
My fears were confirmed last week, when she called
me into her office and told me point blank that she is in love with me and she
wants me to marry her, that she fell in love with me the day she interviewed me
for the job. She now buys me very expensive gifts and also demands my free
time. I have a girlfriend that I intend settling down with, she
has been with me through thick and thin.
Am
scared because if I don’t reciprocate my boss’s feeling I might lose my job and
find myself back in the labour market sooner than I expected after
waiting this long. I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose my job,
I also love my girlfriend and I don't intend to disappoint her.
What should I do?
Julius
Nawaooo dis is damn complicated, my advise tell your girl nd pray she is willing to deal with you affair with. Your boss cos you need dis job. #lebron
ReplyDeleteWhat a confused situation, choose d one u value more simple eida d job or ur gf!
ReplyDeleteIts really bemusing. It takes a judicious man to make the right decision in such a difficult situation. Julius is really in a fix.
ReplyDeleteTell ur boss to giv u time to arange for marrage and things u nid lik two yrs then try to save after smtym tell her dat u cant do it cos u re not compatible with her even she sack u ,u both can strt a life with wot u hav saved but my guy u nid wisdom to play dis game in other to succeed
ReplyDeleteHmmmm state of dilemma. Every man has a price. You have placed a price on yourself and somebody is ready to buy the question is are you willing to sell. Some things are better left unsaid but not in this situation. Discuss this heart to heart with your girl first, seek her advice. My dear not minding the gift your happiness is priority. Your boss is enticing you with expensive gifts and believe you me when you must have fallen flat the gifts are gone and you see the real side of a woman who is in charge. Talk to God about your situation first, then talk to your girl finally talk to your boss. Make her understand you are already commited with a woman like her and what would she do if she were your girl. Ask her to pray over it and do your work in the office. Make your girl come around office to see you and for sure God will take this cup away from you. Pray she also gets her own real man. I wish you well
ReplyDeleteBest advice ever! God cannot can give u a cross that u cannot carry. Talk to God, then ur girlfriend i.e if u really luv her. Next stop is to speak to ur boss, fight for what u believe in and damn the consequences. Best of luck
DeleteUncle uche spoke like God himself,dat is d only best thing to be done...............dat gal has suffered wit u,u can't leave her now or even play games cos believe me,d game will backfire................
ReplyDeleteI think I agree with uncle uche.
ReplyDeleteYou all have a point. In as much as love matters most, One thing we shouldn't forget here is, his job is very important too, he has to do anything within his reach to keep his job. I think he should talk to his colleagues about it, and listen to what they have to say about it, and also tell his girlfriend the situation on ground, since they have come this far, i believe they also share their problems with each other. But the idea of his girlfriend coming around his office isn't advisable. He has to be tactical here, accept the lady's offer, delay her and apply for jobs as well. Most importantly put it in prayer. Its complicated!
ReplyDeleteThis is tough Oº°˚˚°ºoo ...very super tough. Am gonna stick wit my girlfriend..."So help me God"..
ReplyDeleteWhat a faithful guy in Austin
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ReplyDeleteTo me, this is a test of manhood...julius as a man,shudn't have difficulties choosing btwn this "job" n his relationship. Depending on which he values most, I wil encourage him to pay whatever prices his choices wud cost him. Needless to say that he got dat job maybe not becos he merited it but becos he found favour in this lady's eyes. So its either he f**ks d lady or he takes a bow and move on with his life...beta things r ahead...whatever he chooses, I pray The Creator's light luminates his paths...but wait ooo...can this job make him d richest man in "lagos"? *lolxxx...my man, use ur head!!!
ReplyDeleteTo me, this is a test of manhood...if joshua is truly a man, he shudn't have difficulties choosing btwn this "job" n his relationship. Depending on which he values most, I wil encourage him to pay whatever prices his choices wud cost him. Needless to say that he got dat job maybe not becos he merited it but becos he found favour in this lady's eyes. So its either he f**ks d lady or he takes a bow and move on with his life...beta things r ahead...whatever he chooses, I pray The Creator's light luminates his paths...but wait ooo...can this job make him d richest man in "lagos"? *lolxxx...my man, use ur head!!!
ReplyDeleteLol@sidney, you too much oo. Nice reasoning
ReplyDeleteTalk to God and ur gf, I believe you'll know what to do afterwards
ReplyDeleteMy fiance and I are in the power struggle stage. Everything seems to be a power struggle. Even saying goodnight at night. We've always said I love You gave a quick kiss and said goodnight. He often just rolls over and says nothing.which feels hurtful to me. So i say Goodnight I love You. Sometimes he says ya. Sometimes he says it back but with rudeness in his voice. He's become very rude to me. Which hurts my feelings and makes me teary eyed..It's more painful when u don't know the reason for their scary rudness,the reason for his actions became obvious when i found out he was keeping another girl,i got my facts from a cyber genius 'hackingloop6@gmail . com''also available on +1 712 292-2655, whom gained me a remote access to all his phone activities,thereby expossing his secret phone calls,messages,chats and exchanging of nude photos between them.he wouldn't be smart enough to look me in the eyes and lie anymore
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