Dear Love Guru,
I’m in love with an amazing guy and we have been dating for 3 years now. Everything seem to be heading for marriage until he lost his job a year ago. I work as a sales rep in a pharmaceutical company. Despite numerous applications and interviews he is yet to secure another job which makes him depressed cause I have to cater for his needs most times.
So I decided to meet my boss at the office and he decided to help with the connection of his friends. He accepted but requested s*x with me, after giving it much thought I agreed to just a one time stuff. I sacrificed for him. True to my boss's promise my boy friend got a job in one of the multinationals. Though my boss still makes passes at me I have refused to sleep with him since then.
As fate would have it my boyfriend stumbled on the messages on my phone when I asked him to help me get it from a phone repairer since the repairer told me the phone will be flashed. He found out the whole thing. He quit the job instantly. Though he picks my calls he has not said anything to me. I feel so confused, cause I only intended to help.
Please what do I do
Nike
Nike, I thing it was wrong for you to sleep with your boss for your boyfriend because although you did it for him, trust will be a problem. I don't just mean trust in being faithful, I mean trust in your ability to wisely solve problems He could begin to doubt your ability to solve problems with wisdom. I believe that there could have been another option if you would have been patient enough. Men desire Ladies who can solve their problems without complicating issues. Obviously the job was not more important to him than your virtue since he quit your hard earned job. I think you should not depend on just calling him. Go to him in person and not just to beg him, but to ask him for an opportunity to prove your prudence to him. Be wise next time and be patient. Wisdom i s the principal thing, in all you do, make sure there's wisdom in it. It will save you a lot of stress.
ReplyDeleteWell said Zubby.
Delete#Jesus christ * Lebron
ReplyDeleteWell to me the guy made a mistake by quitting his Job, cos a the messages he saw bout his girl sleeping arwnd to get him a Job, what bout the ones she did and he dint find out* mean nigger get back to your Job afterall nobody holy pass he might have done worse that she did*
ReplyDeleteI disagree with you, a man of integrity would do exactly what her boyfriend did. His love for her is worth than the job.
DeleteI doubt that secure ur future first anything will follow
DeleteYes, ♈ōϋ need wisdom. ♈ōϋ are even lucky he picks ur calls. If na me, °̩ go don delete ♈ōϋ from my life kpata kpata....
ReplyDeleteHmmm...she slept with hear boss without letting her boy frnd know...dat one shows she can do anything behind the man's back. Secondly, she had beta go after the man, men like dat are few to find. Her boyfrnd loves her and he is a man of intergrity. That he still picks her kols means he still care for her but he has trust issues with her. For her to get him back she needs to pray and find a way to let her bf know he can still trust her and such a Thing wunt repeat its self again .
ReplyDeleteOmoh if na me b d boifrnd,I no go stop work o,dat 1 na d babe matter,I go free am,find anoda babe,bcuz 4 me dat babe na joncin babe,dat means no b 2day wey en start dat kind stuff,omoh free mi man.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm women and emotions. Sex is not really what people think it is. Some see it as a casual thing but no as long as u had sex with your boss you have communed with him physically and spiritually and that's why he keeps making passes at you. You can't run away from it. Some things are better left unsaid fine but u were just stupid in keeping ur text messages in your phone knowing fully well that you don't want your boyfriend to know what you did. What you thought was a remedy to a problem has definitely turned to your doom. Like zubby said apply wisdom try and reach him have a heart to heart talk with him. He is an honourable man and that's why he quit the job. He may forgive you but he will never forget. Things will never be the same again. Don't even start explaining reasons why you did it rather show remorse and plead for his forgiveness if u are meant to be u will surely be. Let this be a lesson to you. Gods time is the best.
ReplyDeleteIts a tricky one though. For me, she wont have gone that far because of love because that is not love it b**s**t. In this life provided you van breath the air and function there is still hope. For a guy who have work experience, focus and hard working will definitely get a good job even better
ReplyDeletethat is myopia love....there is alwayz a room to think out the box.
ReplyDeleteSince u had ur own job,u n ur bf shuld v depended on it till his luck shines,a womans dignity lies on preserving her pride for who values it.u were wrong yes! Ask God to forgive u and help u soften d mind of ur bf,if he truly loves u he will accept u afterall God forgives all our trespasses.
ReplyDeleteHe shouldn't have resigned and he shud give her a second chance regarding the circumstances @which she did it. She did it for his sake and well being dou her action isn't justified She didn't take the right step bt some time due to circumstance beyond our control we tend to take wrong measures Besides we're mortals and often fall prey to the mundane, So he shud find a place in his heart to forgive becos nobdy holy pass oo
ReplyDeleteEvery relationship needs to have trust,balanced equality,never have to hurt your love by any kind of cheating,disrespect or what's ever, so also needs to have openness and accountability.happy home is how we maintain the trust between us.My ex wasn't ever transparent,he lied and cheated while we were together,as well as hiding things from me.thankfully i was introduced to a cyber genius''hackingloop6@ g m a i l. c om''whom assisted me with hacking into his phone and exposing all his secret chats and dating sites,was on most pornographic sites and all that,most relationships never worth a trial.Hackingloop is also reachable on +1 712 292-2655,contact him if your partner's commitment is in doubt.
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